Adult Picky Eaters UK

For Picky-Eating Adults in the UK and worldwide

Fighting The Haters January 20, 2008

Filed under: adult picky eaters — Claire @ 1:51 am

Did you know there’s a Facebook group called Anti-Picky Eaters?  Whaddya think of that, huh?  I don’t know about you, but I’m not impressed.  Here are some delightful snippets of the type of sentiment they endorse:

  • JUST EAT IT YOU FRIGGIN BABIES!
  • I absolutely friggen hate it when people say they hate a food when they’ve never even tried it before…Eat up you pussies!
  • Picky eating is morally suspect behavior.
  • If one is a picky eater, chances are better that one is, for lack of a better term, a jerk.

Firstly, I object to the prurience of even caring what somebody else does or doesn’t want to eat.  I really don’t get why it bothers them, or why they feel entitled to object to other people’s personal preferences and verbally abuse us on these grounds.  I have asked why it bothers them, but no-one on the group has been able to offer an answer.  They don’t even want to engage with the question.

But secondly, and more importantly, I object because these people obviously don’t get it.  Either it hasn’t occurred to them that we can’t help it (and actually, why should we, if we’re happy like this?), and they genuinely think we do it to piss them off, or, they know fine well that we can’t help it, and they are bullies that just enjoy abusing people, and they see what they think is an opportunity here.  I’ve tried to explain it to them, but to no avail.

It strikes me that this group is actually in contravention of the Facebook Terms of Use.  Attacking an individual or group.  Abusive or objectionable content.  I’ve reported them.  If you object to being dissed for being picky, feel free to do the same.

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Freaky Eaters – Addicted To Cheese February 28, 2007

Filed under: adult picky eaters,adult picky eating — Claire @ 10:31 pm

I just watched the third episode of BBC3’s “Freaky Eaters”.  I missed the first two, so this was my first chance to see what it was all about. 

I cried when I saw Dave trying to eat things, because I felt like I knew what he was feeling, and the two “experts” didn’t seem to have much of an inkling.  Obviously Dave was not “addicted” to cheese – I think that was a stupid, sensationalist way to describe his problem – it was just that he couldn’t manage to eat anything else.

I cried too when they talked to his parents, and they began to realise what their son had been through.  I’d never heard a non-picky eater acknowledge some understanding of how difficult it must be to be like this. 

I still can’t imagine what it would be like for someone in my own life to express some kind of sympathy for my experiences.  I thought I was lucky just to have some tolerance.

 

Out of The Frying Pan February 20, 2007

Filed under: adult picky eaters — Claire @ 12:15 am

It’s a common experience of picky eaters to find eating in restaraunts tricky.  One of the main reasons for this is the frequent difficulty in finding something on the menu that we can eat.

But as I improve, I am beginning to find that I am now beset by a new problem.  In the past, I’d be lucky if there was one single thing on the menu that I could eat.  So the drill would be, when ordering, to scan the menu and find that thing, then order it.  Or, as my brother used to say, “find the thing you hate the least”.  Fairly simple, even if I needed to make an alteration to the advertised dish when I ordered.

Imagine my confusion and bewilderment then, when I find that there is more than one thing on the menu that I can eat.  This must be par for the course for non-picky eaters, but I have no idea how they handle this situation – how do they choose?  More and more these days, I find myself paralysed with indecision at the point of ordering, because I am simply not used to there being, effectively, a choice of things on offer that I can eat.  Other people don’t seem to agonise over the decision, or dither in painful uncertainty between different options for very long.  How do they manage it?

I have discovered (by asking friends) three strategies so far that non-picky eaters use when ordering in restaurants.  One is based on what they’ve had for dinner in the immediate past, or what they’re planning in the immediate future – eg if you had fish last night, have something different tonight.  The second is based on ordering something that you probably wouldn’t cook for yourself, or that you aren’t good at cooking for yourself.  And the third is to choose something you’ve never tried before.  I have to say that last one really wouldn’t work for me, at this stage. 

It must be a good thing that I am starting to have this problem though.  Next stop, fruit and veg.

 

Fussy Eaters February 15, 2007

Filed under: adult picky eaters — Claire @ 12:35 pm

Check out this site, fussy-eaters.com.  It’s broadly UK-based, and it’s got message boards for adults and for parents of fussy eating children.  I also think the name fits better into the British idiom than “picky eating” does.  I wish I’d had the courage of my culture to use “fussy” not “picky”.

Anyway, it’s a great forum and community – check it out, if you haven’t done so already.